First Crush Of Teen-
Often when parent realize that their child has now started showing interest in the opposite sex, they try to take this negatively.When your child gets distracted by thoughts of that cute boy in her class.This is what often worries parents, who feel that children should focus on their studies at this stage.Love is for later.
However, logical as this may seem, things don't always go according to plan. But how you deal with your child's first crush will matters.
Did your child reveal her crush to you herself, or did you find out from others, or by hearing her conversations with friends? Instead of thinking upon all this, ask yourself why she did not come to you with her thoughts. Are you too strict a parent? Did she know you were going to disapprove?
Understand that your child will have crushes, whether you like them or not. Such crushes will form a large part of your child's growing years. Short of taking her out of school or limiting her access to all members of the opposite sex - which would be extremely unhealthy by the way - there is little you can do to prevent this from happening. It is better if you try and be a friend to yourchild.
Many adults who fall in love, get married and then opt for a divorce too suddenly realize that perhaps they were never in love at all. So take your child's words seriously or she may stop coming to you and prefer talking to friends.
You could also then set limits for dating, which could range to disallowing it completely to allowing it after your child reaches a certain age. Each family has its own sets of rules in this regard. Some children meet members of the opposite sex without their parents knowledge, and they may indulge in activities they later regret. But if you are an understanding parent, chances are, they will draw the line where you tell them to, as they know they have your trust and would rather not abuse it.
Often when parent realize that their child has now started showing interest in the opposite sex, they try to take this negatively.When your child gets distracted by thoughts of that cute boy in her class.This is what often worries parents, who feel that children should focus on their studies at this stage.Love is for later.
However, logical as this may seem, things don't always go according to plan. But how you deal with your child's first crush will matters.
Did your child reveal her crush to you herself, or did you find out from others, or by hearing her conversations with friends? Instead of thinking upon all this, ask yourself why she did not come to you with her thoughts. Are you too strict a parent? Did she know you were going to disapprove?
Understand that your child will have crushes, whether you like them or not. Such crushes will form a large part of your child's growing years. Short of taking her out of school or limiting her access to all members of the opposite sex - which would be extremely unhealthy by the way - there is little you can do to prevent this from happening. It is better if you try and be a friend to yourchild.
Many adults who fall in love, get married and then opt for a divorce too suddenly realize that perhaps they were never in love at all. So take your child's words seriously or she may stop coming to you and prefer talking to friends.
You could also then set limits for dating, which could range to disallowing it completely to allowing it after your child reaches a certain age. Each family has its own sets of rules in this regard. Some children meet members of the opposite sex without their parents knowledge, and they may indulge in activities they later regret. But if you are an understanding parent, chances are, they will draw the line where you tell them to, as they know they have your trust and would rather not abuse it.
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